Updated: Mar 22, 2021
Self-esteem is defined as a persons overall subjective sense of their own worth and value, in other words how much you appreciate yourself.
When we feel high levels of self-esteem, we feel positive about ourselves and our future. We make clear decisions and start moving forward towards our goals and visions. We say yes to what we do want and we say no to what we don't want and we have healthy boundaries.
When we have low self-esteem, our self-talk is negative and critical. We act out our thoughts so one might sabotage by people pleasing, they might choose to distract themselves instead of work on their future goals, they might say yes to others which is saying no their future visions.
Self-esteem is boosted by changing how you speak to yourself. Below I have listed 3 very effective ways to boost your self-esteem. Get started with these 3 simple techniques and practice them until you feel better about yourself and refer to them whenever you need a self-esteem boost. Read over your lists often.
1. List your strengths
A great way to boost your self-esteem is understanding yourself better and a great place to start is knowing your strengths. What are you good at? What comes naturally to you?
Acknowledging what you are good at is a great step to boosting your self-esteem. Make a list of your strengths.
2. Success Bank
Are you hard on yourself for all things you didn't get done at the end of the day? The sentence "I have nothing done today" is used often. Is it entirely true? Every day is step forward. How did you show up? How did you serve others? It is okay if you had a bad day. Let's get started and start listing all the things you did get done even. Did you get out of bed? Did you show up at work? You can drop your standards until you start becoming more productive. Grab a journal and call it your success bank. You can refer to it every time you need to be reminded about your success. You can't wait around for someone to pat you on the back and say you did a great job today. Outside validation is great when it comes but one must not rely on it to feel good enough.
3. Practice Self-love (List 25 reasons why you are lovable)
Stop criticising yourself and looking for faults. Throw perfectionism in the bin. Criticising oneself can happen if you had a very critical adult around you in your childhood, it could be a parent or a teacher. Words of affirmation is the love language for low self-esteem. Be your own cheerleader. Sometimes you are the only one who can truly give yourself the love you need. Nobody loves you as much as you love you, not your mother, not your partner nor your friend. You can be around people who don't even love themselves so you can't expect them to give you love at your level. Instead of listing what is wrong with you and why you are not enough, remind yourself what is great about you. What do you like about yourself? What is it that is special and different about you? Are you kind? Are you giving? Are you a team player? Are you a leader? Are you creative? Are you helpful? Are you funny? Are you fun? Are you optimistic? Make a list of what is awesome about you.
I hope you enjoy the 3 techniques to help boost your self-esteem. These are proven methodologies that I use with my clients often. Let me know how you get on with these exercises. To connect with me, you can book a free clarity call and we can discuss your vision, your obstacles, your needs and desires and I will answer any questions that you might have. It is a very positive experience in a very a safe and confidential space. We meet online via zoom and it is around 45 mins long. Book it now.
Remember you are amazing !!
Have a lovely week ahead.