Updated: Apr 15, 2019
What is the ego?
Everyone has an ego. Ego is our self image. It is not the true self. It defines the self based on beliefs about ourselves, life and others gathered through the past. The ego is an identity of our own creation. It creates an illusion of who we are and causes an immense role in creating emotional drama in our lives. The ego hides behind the I and me. It is either thinking past or future and stops you from being in the present moment.
Ego creates negative drama
The easier way to spot the ego is by the trail of emotional reactions it leaves behind: Anger at a loved one, a need to be right, a feeling of insecurity in certain situations, feelings of jealousy that are unexplained, the need to impress someone, and so on. To the unaware person, it is difficult to discern the difference between what is ego and what is really them. They are left to wonder, “What came over me that I reacted that way?” They try to explain that was not really me which they are right. It was not really their true self. It was their reactive ego self. It is the responsibility of all to become more aware of their thoughts and understand what is the difference between the EGO and True Self.
Do not let the ego rule your life
The ego is the voice inside that talks you out of everything. Ego grabs onto one negative thought and tries to figure it out, analyse it and then grabs onto another negative thought to back up the first thought until you finally react to your thoughts and create sabotage or destruction of some sort. The ego looks for evidence to prove itself right. It is waiting and observing and expecting the same thing to happen that happened in the past. So it only sees what it wants to see and creates a fog or cloudiness to the present moment and what is really happening. It creates and loves drama. The ego is the thinker, it doesn't like to listen. It likes to consume you so you are not present listening to others.
Ego expects to be hurt again
Sometimes in relationships where people have been hurt in past they develop a mistrust. The ego starts to mistrust everyone and what others say. The ego waits and expects to be hurt again. It is watching and collecting the evidence.
Projection onto others
Ego is critical of you and all. It blames everyone for your worries. Ego projects all noise thoughts in your head on to the people you love. Ego hurts and blames everyone for how you are feeling. The ego actually causes your stress but instead it likes to blame everyone outside your for the stress. When two egos collide, that is a very negative energetic experience. That is when two people are reacting from their thoughts against each other in an argument or fight with nobody seeking to create a solution. It is responsibility of both to come back down to their body and out of their head so they can deal with it more constructively.
Things to do to prevent the ego from taking over
You can focus on creating daily habits to prevent the ego from causing destruction. Let your higher self have the voice over your ego.
Meditation Meditation is best way to your highest and best self. It is best to meditate in morning and before you go to sleep. This gives you a great start to your day. Clears the mind and lets go of thoughts that do not serve you. There are plenty meditation apps like Calm, HeadSpace, 10% Happier App or there is countless meditations available on Youtube.
Journalling: Write out your thoughts. Write down what you are thinking. Question your thoughts and beliefs. Is this thought I have of myself or others true? How do I behave when I believe this thought? Does it help me reach my goals? Does it help me love others? Who would I be without these thoughts? This will help you see them on paper, understand them and most the time you will see it is just a thought that can be let go.
Spend Time In Nature: I highly recommend that you spend time in nature every day. This helps you connect with earth and come out of your head. Notice the trees, the flowers, all the blades of grass, listen to the birds singing and be aware of your surroundings.
Gratitude: Focus on the things you love about your life or people in your life. You need to make a conscious effort to notice the good. Count your blessings. Look for the things to be grateful for in a negative situation. There is a blessing in every situation you are in right now but you need to consciously notice it.
Breathing - Be grateful for your breath. Do a breathing exercise each day to relieve stress. This also grounds you and takes you out of the head. Breathe in to your lungs and belly for the count of 4, hold it for the count of 3 and breathe out for the count of 4. Do this few times until you feel relaxed.
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